Weird Networking Tips for Introverts
Simple things you can do to prepare for, experience, and participate in an event.
I am not a Doctor, or a Psychotherapy Professional, I’m just an `extroverted introvert` sharing some of the things I’ve tried at networking events. As my nieces would say, “Sharing is Caring!”.
Don’t get overwhelmed by this list. If you’re on the edge about attending, try choosing just one or two things from this list to try.
Before the Event
1. Set A Goal
In the past (and still sometimes now) my goal would be “Just go to the event.” No shame in attendance being your only goal! Here are some other inspiring low-hanging-fruit goals that I’ve used in the past:
- “Talk to ONE person”
- “Don’t eat alone”
- “Thank the Organizer”
And don’t beat yourself after the event if you didn’t meet your goal… Just try, try again!
2. Wear Something that Stands Out from the Crowd
No, I don’t mean wear something strange or flamboyant. At most networking events people are wearing black, navy, grey, and dark solid colours. Standing out just a tiny bit by wearing a brighter colour, a pattern, or something with personality (ie: Superhero pin) could help you stand out in the crowd and make it more likely for someone to notice and speak to you. If your outfit can reflect your personality, it will help speak for you.
3. Bring Business Cards
Assume that things will go okay at the event and put a few business cards in your pocket just in case. For me, this act of optimism helps balance out negative thoughts.
During the Event
4. Check-in With How You’re Feeling
Depending on your experiences, your anxiety might be at it’s highest right before the event, or once you have entered and are not sure what to do next. Get to know yourself better so you can better predict how you will feel during certain parts of the event, and it won’t be as much of a surprise when you’re feeling uncomfortable. If just entering the event is difficult, plan to meet a friend inside the venue. This will help you get through the door and give you purpose once inside.
5. Look Around
Many events are held within beautiful or innovative spaces. Give yourself a tour of the open event space. Note the details that make this place different from your workplace, what things do you love, is there anything surprising? If you bump into someone, share your observations and interest. Okay, I know this one sounds weird, but comparing office spaces and pointing out great features can get people chatting! Sparkling water on-tap, cool murals, in-office compost bins oh my!
6. Seek out the Organizers and Volunteers
These people have spent hours (or days, or months!) putting together this event. They are excited you came! When you’re checking in to the event ask them if things are busier than they expected. During the event if you see someone who looks stressed, ask if there is anything you can help with. Ask where the bathroom is, they would be happy to tell you!
7. Give A Sincere Compliment
Look around the room. Is there anyone you admire or recognize? Pass by and let them know their work as impacted you. Say thank you. Is there someone with a great bag? Tell them you like it. Ask them where they found it. See someone who organized the event? Mention you loved their choice to use biodegradable plates and cutlery. Even if you excuse yourself shortly after, your compliment will give them a small boost and leaving them feeling energized.
8. Ask for help
What is something you are struggling with or trying to accomplish? Share that with others and ask them if they have any experience with your roadblock. People love to feel useful and love to share their experiences. If they don’t have insight to offer, they might point you to someone who does. Worst case scenario they don’t have experience and they ask you to explain a bit more. In the end, thank them for listening and ask if they are struggling with anything right now. Even if you can’t offer advice, a listening ear goes a long way.
If you’re at the event and feeling overwhelmed, head to the back of the room and write yourself an email. Most people will take the hint and give you space. Need more privacy? Visit the restrooms and take a few breaths in the privacy of a stall.
After the Event
9. Share someone else’s post
Too anxious to take a picture, or write about the event yourself? Hop on Linkedin, Twitter, or your industry’s preferred social media and use the event hashtag to find others who have posted about the event. Add a small comment and re-share their post. They will appreciate you boosting their content and you will show your network that you are connected to your industry.
If these tips seem obvious or irrelevant to you, Congratulations, you probably don’t have social anxiety in networking situations! Thankfully I don’t experience nearly as much event anxiety as I used to, but I credit that to continuing to participate and experiencing new events. Do you have a tip to share that has worked for you? I want to hear them!
